Never let the snakes back in your life.

Both Joan/Doris and the exBFF called my job to get me fired. And both tried to harm my character and relationships. I will NEVER let them in my life again. I don't care if they become destitute. The very act of calling my job jeopardized my earnings at the time, my pension, and my future Social Security payments. I was paying a mortgage (with my husband) when they were doing this. They didn't care if I lost my income and wouldn't be able to pay my house payments. They didn't care that I and my husband would lose our home. 

THEY DIDN'T CARE.  So - I DON'T CARE ABOUT THEM.
Whatever problems they encounter in life - be it financial, health, housing, food, mental well-being ---- I WILL NOT CARE.

 

If they had left me alone, I would not have retaliated.

 

I have never said I was perfect. I have done some stupid things in my life. I have done a couple of rotten things in my life. The rotten things I did were reactions to people repeatedly fucking with me after I told them repeatedly to leave me alone. Their act of calling my job with lies to get me fired was the impetus of my actions. I will not debate whether that was right or wrong. I did what I did and that's that.

I AM NOBODY'S DOORMAT

As an empath, I understood both Joan/Doris and the exBFF were hurting. 
As a person, I didn't understand why they went out of their way to hurt me.
I never said I was perfect - and anything I did was actually in response to THEIR MISDEEDS.
They know, even if they won't admit it, that what they did was wrong.
And for years I put up with their shit. Then I fought back. I set up boundaries. Healthy boundaries - like not wanting to be treated with disrespect. But they wouldn't respect my boundaries - so I refused to be their doormat. 
I AM NOBODY'S DOORMAT. 

The moment respect is broken ....

 

Happy New Year 2026 and Moon Phase coloring project for New Year's Day

 Moon Phase Coloring Page from Amy Cesari's Coloring Book of Shadows.
Enjoy --