This was my response to a topic on a forum I belong to - Earth Based Spirituality
It certainly is a challenge to deal with rude and abusive persons, be they customers (in my case, patients), or co-workers. Or even a rude neighbor. I have always followed the "3 strikes" rule. If somebody crabs at me the first time, I give them the benefit of the doubt. We are all human, and we have all gotten up on the wrong side of the bed. If it happens a second time, I still don't say anything, but I do watch them. If it happens a third time, and if it is appropriate, I will speak up (positve assertiveness) and ask if there is something I have done to make them speak to me so rudely. 9 times out of 10, the person backs off, and we continue peacefully. But there will always be that last person who is an a-hole. And depending on the circumstances, I deal with them as little as possible. I don't respond to their negativity, I ask them to stop, and then I just walk away. I may say hello to them as our shift begins, but I don't really interact with them.I follow that line from Desiderata: "Avoid loud and aggresive persons, they are vexatious to the spirit."
If the person is a co-worker and steps over the line, I may choose to pursue a hostile work environment complaint with my manager and/or human resources.I may choose not to let their negativity affect me, but I won't tolerate continued rudeness, especially after I asked them to stop.Rude neighbors are a difficult bunch. In the inner city, where I live, asking them to stop a certain behavior (loud noise, trespassing, etc) can lead to them going out their way to step it up, just to annoy you. There are a lot of a-holes out there.
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Star Trek colognes
Star Trek Scentssubmitted by First Officer Ruth Pace
From The Buffalo News, Sunday, March 29, 2009, by Susan Martin
Star Trek Scents
The world of fragrance is about to boldly go where few have ventured before: the Trekosphere, reports the Chicago Tribune. Maryland-based Genki Wear will release three Star Trek-themed scents April 24—two for men, one for women (about $30 retail). It’s all tied into the May 8 release of J. J. Abrams’ new Star Trek film, chronicling the beginnings of Capt. James T. Kirk and the USS Enterprise. The scents: • “Tiberius” is based on Kirk’s character and carries the tag line “Boldly go.” It is described as “warm vanilla, white musk and sandalwood” base. • “Red Shirt”—with its leather and gray musk aroma—has the tag line, “Because tomorrow may never come.” • And for women, there’s the “Pon Farr” perfume, which refers to the Vulcan mating ritual…and that’s all we’re going to say about that.
First Officer’s Pace’s comments: I read the above article to Crewman John Pace. He is not interested in the scents, as he is not a cologne man. He just dabs a little “Old Spice” on. On rare occasions he will use “Aramis”. I think “Tiberius” will suit him. And I’m not about to buy something called “Red Shirt.” That’s just asking for trouble. I’m looking forward to the “Pon-Farr” scent for me. Mr. Spock, watch out!
It’s interesting that the illustration on the “Tiberius” bottle is the sword through Earth emblem of the Mirror Universe Federation. Boldly go, mmmm? The bottle for “Red Shirt” has a delta shield on it, with what looks like an engineering and ship’s services emblem.
Speaking of Mr. Spock, the article in the Buffalo News was accompanied by a small picture of Leonard Nimoy as Spock from Star Trek The Motion Picture with the caption Dr. Spock. Come on people! It’s been more than 40 years and you still can’t get it right? It’s MISTER Spock, not DOCTOR Spock. Geez! And you call yourselves journalists?
Monday, March 23, 2009
Older People Deserve Respect Too Ya Know!
Okay, I won’t name names, I’m not going to say who wrote it – but I read somebody’s blog and I am appalled.
This young woman who works at a Donut place wrote a rotten piece about “old people.” She says she can’t stand it when old people come into the donut shop. “They can’t count, they take a long time.”
You know this pisses me off Big Fuckin’ Time.
Who are you to judge other people, especially people who have been on this Earth longer than you and know a lot more than you.
So an older person takes a long time? How much time?
I don’t know the blog writer’s work hours, but let’s say she is in the shop for 4 hours. So the older person takes 30 – 60 seconds longer to count out their change or their arthritic fingers prevent them from grasping the little coins. Is the cashier going to get out of the store any faster? She still gonna be there for the duration of her work hours!
So an older person can’t count – neither can a little child – you gonna condemn them too?
How long does it take to help someone? MMMM? 10 – 20 seconds? Oh that is SUCH A BURDEN!! You know helping someone JUST might make you feel better in your heart.
Oh gee- what if a 30 year old person with MS comes in and their disability prevents them getting their change out fast enough for you – you gonna condemn them too with your shallow standards?
Remember Missy, one day YOU too will be old. I hope people will be more kind to you than you are to your older customers.
Why don’t’ you stop looking at your customers as old burdens and look at them as “people.” Why don’t you try looking at them and wondering what they were like when they were your age. I’ll bet they really brought the house down swing dancing to the Big Bands.
Several months ago, one my patients died at the age of 73. I found out that she used to be a Burlesque Dancer, billed as “Miss Tassel.” (wow!) Burlesque Dancers had much more class than today’s “pole dancers,” they didn’t shove their crotch or butt in your face.
Anyway, I saw some of her pictures - - What a gorgeous woman. Absolutely stunning! Oh, how I wish I had seen her back in her day and watched her dance!
But she was an “old” woman when I met her – and because of her age, not that she asked for this to happen to her – she peed her bed. Well, I’m here to say, I am proud to have cleaned up after her!
So what if your older customers take a little extra time in placing their orders and getting their change out – like I said before – you ain’t gonna get out the door any faster. And even if they are encroaching on your quittin’ time – What’s Your Damn Hurry?
“Cos you know what Missy? Time is gonna fly right out from under your ass – 50 years will go by fast and you will find yourself on the receiving end of such insensitivity and you will have earned it baby.
Remember Karma baby - IT’S A BITCH!
This young woman who works at a Donut place wrote a rotten piece about “old people.” She says she can’t stand it when old people come into the donut shop. “They can’t count, they take a long time.”
You know this pisses me off Big Fuckin’ Time.
Who are you to judge other people, especially people who have been on this Earth longer than you and know a lot more than you.
So an older person takes a long time? How much time?
I don’t know the blog writer’s work hours, but let’s say she is in the shop for 4 hours. So the older person takes 30 – 60 seconds longer to count out their change or their arthritic fingers prevent them from grasping the little coins. Is the cashier going to get out of the store any faster? She still gonna be there for the duration of her work hours!
So an older person can’t count – neither can a little child – you gonna condemn them too?
How long does it take to help someone? MMMM? 10 – 20 seconds? Oh that is SUCH A BURDEN!! You know helping someone JUST might make you feel better in your heart.
Oh gee- what if a 30 year old person with MS comes in and their disability prevents them getting their change out fast enough for you – you gonna condemn them too with your shallow standards?
Remember Missy, one day YOU too will be old. I hope people will be more kind to you than you are to your older customers.
Why don’t’ you stop looking at your customers as old burdens and look at them as “people.” Why don’t you try looking at them and wondering what they were like when they were your age. I’ll bet they really brought the house down swing dancing to the Big Bands.
Several months ago, one my patients died at the age of 73. I found out that she used to be a Burlesque Dancer, billed as “Miss Tassel.” (wow!) Burlesque Dancers had much more class than today’s “pole dancers,” they didn’t shove their crotch or butt in your face.
Anyway, I saw some of her pictures - - What a gorgeous woman. Absolutely stunning! Oh, how I wish I had seen her back in her day and watched her dance!
But she was an “old” woman when I met her – and because of her age, not that she asked for this to happen to her – she peed her bed. Well, I’m here to say, I am proud to have cleaned up after her!
So what if your older customers take a little extra time in placing their orders and getting their change out – like I said before – you ain’t gonna get out the door any faster. And even if they are encroaching on your quittin’ time – What’s Your Damn Hurry?
“Cos you know what Missy? Time is gonna fly right out from under your ass – 50 years will go by fast and you will find yourself on the receiving end of such insensitivity and you will have earned it baby.
Remember Karma baby - IT’S A BITCH!
Monday, March 16, 2009
Uproar over Dora the Explorer's new look!
from a news service:"Dora the streetwalker. A sexed-up version of a children's icon. A poor example for kids.
Those were just some of the terms tossed around the blogosphere after Mattel released a silhouette of the "new" Dora, whose image was drastically changed from the endearing tomboy look Dora fans grew to love, with her bowl-cut hairdo, T-shirt and red shorts. This new Dora appeared to have long flowing hair, and was wearing what seemed a scanty skirt, emphasizing her long, shapely legs."
Ok, my two cents:First, I'm not a mom. But I do have some brains, and I can't see what the fuss is all about here. This new Dora is cute. A scanty skirt? nope! IT'S A TUNIC TOP! long shapely legs. Oh Puh-leeze! Does your daughter wear thick snow pants at the beach?Get a grip people! Her legs are shaped just like HUMAN LEGS!Mattel says they are not getting rid of the old Dora. There will be two versions. The "tomboy" Dora and the more "girly" Dora. As a former tomboy, I have to say, at some time in a tomboy's life, she needs to grow up and become more feminine. I don't mean slutty either, but a girl should like a girl, not a tramp, but not wearing that disgusting hip-hop look. I see tweens and teens go in both directions. Either their clothes are so tight they look like they're wearing second skins. They have all this makeup on and fake nails. Then others go in the other direction, with the baggy oversized t-shirts.And the "fuller figure" ones (and I mean grown women as well) squeeze their fullness into tight leggings and they bulge out and look disgusting.This Dora looks feminine, without being trashy. She's not wearing excessive jewelry, just a simple necklace, bracelets and cute little earrings. (oh, how many of you moms got your daughter's ears pierced at a young age? mmmmm? I had to wait until I was 18 before my father let me do that!)I don't see any makeup or fake nails on this new Dora either. This Dora is cute, feminine, yet still retains a little-girl look. In fact, with her long hair, she looks like Gina, the little girl featured in the Dennis the Menace comic strip in some Sunday papers. Gina has been around since I think the late 60s, wears a belt, slung low at her hips over a tunic top. Bottom line: get your minds out of the gutter people and let girls mature with a good role model!
Those were just some of the terms tossed around the blogosphere after Mattel released a silhouette of the "new" Dora, whose image was drastically changed from the endearing tomboy look Dora fans grew to love, with her bowl-cut hairdo, T-shirt and red shorts. This new Dora appeared to have long flowing hair, and was wearing what seemed a scanty skirt, emphasizing her long, shapely legs."
Ok, my two cents:First, I'm not a mom. But I do have some brains, and I can't see what the fuss is all about here. This new Dora is cute. A scanty skirt? nope! IT'S A TUNIC TOP! long shapely legs. Oh Puh-leeze! Does your daughter wear thick snow pants at the beach?Get a grip people! Her legs are shaped just like HUMAN LEGS!Mattel says they are not getting rid of the old Dora. There will be two versions. The "tomboy" Dora and the more "girly" Dora. As a former tomboy, I have to say, at some time in a tomboy's life, she needs to grow up and become more feminine. I don't mean slutty either, but a girl should like a girl, not a tramp, but not wearing that disgusting hip-hop look. I see tweens and teens go in both directions. Either their clothes are so tight they look like they're wearing second skins. They have all this makeup on and fake nails. Then others go in the other direction, with the baggy oversized t-shirts.And the "fuller figure" ones (and I mean grown women as well) squeeze their fullness into tight leggings and they bulge out and look disgusting.This Dora looks feminine, without being trashy. She's not wearing excessive jewelry, just a simple necklace, bracelets and cute little earrings. (oh, how many of you moms got your daughter's ears pierced at a young age? mmmmm? I had to wait until I was 18 before my father let me do that!)I don't see any makeup or fake nails on this new Dora either. This Dora is cute, feminine, yet still retains a little-girl look. In fact, with her long hair, she looks like Gina, the little girl featured in the Dennis the Menace comic strip in some Sunday papers. Gina has been around since I think the late 60s, wears a belt, slung low at her hips over a tunic top. Bottom line: get your minds out of the gutter people and let girls mature with a good role model!
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