Do your own damn inner work

THIS. I will help. I will guide you to the resources you need. But if you won't utilize those resources to change - I will not carry you. My life and my time is for me - not you.

 

Burning Bridges Can Be Beautiful

The version of me that tolerated bullshit just because she was my 'sister' or the other she - because she used to be my best friend.

My life is so calm since The Nameless One and the exBFF are out of my life.

 

What caused me to turn my back on Joan/Doris and the exBBF - I closed the door on both of them.

 

Even good people get tired of doing good for ungrateful people.

 

I was supportive to the exBFF for years. Went out of my way to help her. Used tons of MY time, and even some of my sick time from my job to help her.

She started being a pain in the ass. Little things at first. Then 3 incidents occurred.

1. Her car was in my name for her to get cheap insurance. I didn't have a car. She dropped the payment off in person one day - handed it to me and ran. A friend of hers was in the car and they took off. I had to take 2 buses to the credit union downtown behind City Hall to put the cash in my account to cover HER bill.

2. She had stolen some of my pain pills.

3. In a drunken phone call she let it out that her son's car was in her boyfriend's name. I called her a few days later and ascertained she was sober. I then reamed her out. I brought up how she couldn't be adult enough to pay the dam bill to keep MY name and credit clean. And if her son's car was in her boyfriend's name, HER car can be too.

I told her she had 30 days to get the car out of my name, or I would go to DMV and cancel the registration. She got the car out of my name in less than a week.

She had more problems after that. Health problems. I saw her at a funeral, and she had trouble walking. I did see her stumble a bit, her left foot dragging.

I DIDN'T GIVE A DAMN ANYMORE.

And years later, when she contacted me on instagram, saying she missed me and wanted to be friends again - I sent her packing.

Because even good people get tired of doing good for ungrateful people.