Happy Holidays December 2025

Haven't been here since August - my trusty workhorse Dell Latitude laptop died. And I had to get a new laptop. It's a nice one a Dell Inspiron with twice the memory of the old one. 
But it has Windows 11. -- I was just getting used to Windows 10 and they throw this one at me - with a lot of changes to navigate.  And since I had to scramble in getting things off the old laptop, I've got folders of stuff that have to be organized. 

John and I don't do Christmas. He's a 'lapsed Catholic' and I'm a Neo Pagan, Wiccan, and Witch. I do Yule and John just goes along for the ride.

But I still get 'Christmas cards' from a couple of cousins of mine. And this year, my cousin Cindy sent me this one:

She knows how I like to color things and her message inside the card read "Tis the season to bust out a box of crayons."

I don't use crayons. I use colored pencils. And I really haven't had much time to do any coloring, as I've been busy in several projects around the house. So for the past few days I'd been scrambling getting things done around the house so that on Christmas Day I could concentrate on coloring this card.

Here's the finished picture:

Hope you enjoyed your holidays, which ever one you celebrated.

My boundary. I will help. But I can't fix. If you can't or won't do the necessary work - that's on you.

 

Truth

 

"She changed," they complained. Yeah, I did. I stopped being a doormat.

 

What caused me to turn my back on Joan/Doris and the exBBF - I closed the door on both of them.

 

Narcissists get angry when you end a relationship with them. Be prepared.

Absolutely true.

The moment I stood up and told the Nameless One and the exBFF that I was no longer their doormat -- the 'real' abuse began.

The Nameless One embarked on a 23 year voyage of revenge against me. When I put my foot down with the exBFF, she became 'offended' and stooped to using some of The Nameless One's tactics against me. 

I'm not entirely sure what happened. Both of them had called my job to get me fired in 2012. My employer investigated me and found me innocent, but still called me down to the office to discuss it with me. I told them that I was tired of being called down. I asked for their legal help, they 'didn't want to get involved." I said 'well, what do you want me to do? I can't make them stop. I haul them into court and the charges get dismissed. You're the ones with the legal team." I also told them that if they called again, not to bother me with it. "Investigate me all you want. Just leave me out of it."

Between 2013 and 2015, the year I retired, I never heard another word from either The Nameless One, or the exBFF. It seemed like they both dropped off the face of the earth. I can't imagine that either of them suddenly developed a conscious and decided to leave me alone. I suspect, but can't prove - that one or both - did call my job again - and got told by my employer to knock it off.. Maybe even got hauled into court by my employer. All I know is: ALL HARASSMENT SUDDENLY STOPPED. And of course I retired in 2015, so I took away their toy.

And in 2023, when the exBFF contacted me on instagram, saying she wanted to be friends again - I sent her packing. Haven't heard a word from her since. 

I want nothing to do with either of them. They are toxic idiots.

 

Some people aren't sorry for what they did. They're only sorry that you weren't fooled.