New day, new week, new year, new magick - time for a new direction for this blog. Stay tuned.

Happy New Year 2024
I have been thinking the past couple of months that I want to change the direction of this blog. And most likely the title. I’ll have to think about that.

I have gotten a lot of things off my chest on my old blog and on this one. I know from comments and being contacted by people on my old blog that I have helped others deal with the narcissist in their lives, or how to deal with an adoption renewal gone sour.

My old blog achieved what I wanted: I found lies in Doris Sippel/Joan Mary Wheeler’s book and refuted those lies. I have backed up my side of the story with photographs, scans of documents - police, court and personal ones - and proved that she is a liar.

The last time she called my job with lies to get me fired (in 2012), I told my employer that if she called again - I didn’t want to hear about it. When she called, they investigated me and found me innocent. But they refused to help me in my court case of harassment against her. The judge dismissed the charges (again).

A few months later, when FJM, my exBFF in a drug-fueled rage against me for removing her from my facebook, also called my job with lies to get me fired in 2012. I was called down to Human Resources again. Again they said, they investigated me and found me innocent. So I told them “if those two call you again, go ahead and investigate me - BUT DON’T CALL ME DOWN HERE AGAIN. I asked you for help in my case against my sister, but you wouldn’t give me a statement. What do you want me to do? I haul her into court, and the charges get dismissed. She calls again, or if FJM calls again - get YOUR legal team on it - I don’t care what you do - just leave me out of this. I can’t make them stop. My sister has been calling you since 1995 - YOU deal with her from now on.”

Did they call after that? I don’t know. If they did call, Human Resources did what I asked - they left me out of it.

I retired in October 2015. I took their toy away from them. I have no idea if they called my former employer after I retired. All I know is that it seems the two of them dropped off the face of the earth after 2012. I have had no contact with my sister for 12 years now.

FJM did contact me on Instagram in March 2021, saying she misses me and wants to be my friend again. I sent her packing. She left me her phone number - and I called it. And I told her in no uncertain terms I want NOTHING to do with her ever again. She listened to me (gosh finally, for the first time in 40 years she finally f’ing LISTENED to me). She has not contacted me again.

I have 12 years of peace and serenity. For the first time in my fucking life. I had an unsettled childhood. I was the victim of bullying all through school. As an adult, at my job, I encountered bullying. There was always someone fucking with me. Joan/Doris started her harassment of me in 1989. After she and her deadbeat husband swindled me out of $700, and she lied to me repeatedly - I told her to get out of my life. She left a message on my answering machine saying “money shouldn’t come between sisters” - she stole $700 from me - money that I worked for. Her husband had a crappy job, and was always getting laid off. She was too lazy to get off her ass and get a job. I worked at a job to pay for ME, not for HER, but she saw it differently - and refused to admit to what she did - STEALING. And then have the nerve to say “money shouldn’t come between sisters” -- right, she fixed her car with MY money, and when my car broke down, I didn’t have the money to fix it, and had to take it off the road. She drove around - I was stuck taking public transportation. And when I told her I was done with her and to get out of my life - she became enraged and began her years-long campaign to PUNISH me - by stalking me, harassing me, sending me lying letters (like my husband got the next door neighbor pregnant), writing letters to my husband and his mother - to get us split up.

These letters started in 1992. And in 1995 she started calling my job to get me fired. Her harassment continued to 2012. 

My exBFF, FJM, is another case. She had been disrespectful to me for YEARS and I finally put my foot down. I sent her a letter of intervention, to get her off the drugs. And I told her things she didn’t want to hear. So she too decided to PUNISH me - by calling my job to get me fired. As I said before, I was investigated and found innocent. 

So to sum up. I said I was bullied in school. I think it started in third grade. That was 1960-61. It continued all through high school. I graduated in 1970. Got my first job in 1971 and there were a couple of snobby mean girls there. I got bullied again. Got my job at the hospital in 1972. And from time to time encountered some idiots fucking with me. In 1987 my husband and I moved in together and there were some asshole neighbors and bratty kids and I was bullied and harassed again. That all stopped in early 2000s. Harassment from Joan/Doris finally stopped in 2012. 

So I have been fucked with from 1960 to 2012. For the first time in my life, I have peace and serenity now. I refuse to let any person to fuck with me anymore. Being retired helps a lot. I don’t have to go somewhere and deal with idiots. When I go shopping or other places, when I encounter idiots - they are strangers, and it is temporary. I don’t engage with them. I do what I have to do - and get out of the store or business. This does not mean I don’t wish cashiers a nice day here and there - I just mind my own business while shopping etc. and get out! And then get home to my peaceful sanctuary. 

I’m tired of negativity and I want this blog to reflect that. I will be posting more positive things from now on. This does not mean that I will be censoring myself - I speak my mind on things - be it good or ‘bad.’ 

Happy New Year

 

Yep. Never got a thank you from the exBFF for using MY time - MY sick time from my job, which resulted in me running out of sick time and having to go to work when ‘I’ was sick -- I wasted MY time taking that ungrateful bitch to DETOX. Sitting with her overnight the night before making sure she was okay from her crack binge.
NOT ONE DAMN THANK YOU FROM HER.
JUST A FUCKING KICK IN THE TEETH.
And she says 10 years later, she misses me.
What she misses is what she can get out of me.
FUCK YOU FJM.

 

I never needed to hear excuses or reasons as to why Joan/Doris or the exBFF called my job - their actions spoke the truth about them - they wanted to destroy me and my life. 

Joan/Doris did it because she was and IS evil. 

The exBFF had been abusing me for several years. She had been sucking the life out of me, taking advantage of me, stealing from me, lying to me, trashing my father to me on the phone the day after he was buried, swearing at my relatives on facebook, calling me on the phone one night demanding to know why I kicked her off my facebook, leaving horrible insulting comments on facebook about my husband. And after all of that - she called my job to get me fired! 

Was it her or the drugs that made her do those things? I don’t know and I don’t care.

The deeds were done and cannot be undone. No apologies, excuses, justifications, or groveling could EVER make me want to have anything to do with her. 

some nice music

 

I do not accept being the bad guy because I stopped supporting someone who won't accept the consequences of their own bad choices in life.

 

All the years I 'gave a fuck' - I supported the exBFF - when she became a crime victim, I dropped everything, called in sick to my job to spend a couple nights at her apartment. 

I supported her when she got her face slashed by a pissed off wife, despite me knowing that she had been in the wrong by sending a perfumed thank you card to that wife's hubby. I didn't say anything, but as a wife, if some woman sends my hubby a PERFUMED card - uh, no, just NO! You just don't do that.
I did say when I saw her spray the perfume on the card, "Isn't G. married?" And F. says, "Not very happily."

I didn't say anything more, because I had said it before - YEARS before - that F. (the exBFF) needed to stop chasing married/attached men. Doesn't matter if they are 'happy' or not in their marriage/relationship - NO WOMAN HAS THE RIGHT TO STEP IN. 

I'm not condoning what the wife did in this situation - a crime is a crime - but F. brought it on herself. And she had prior experience in the matter - she had bedded a married man, and then subsequently had a fist fight with that wife. AND when the father of her child got out of jail, and moved in with F. and their child, 6 months later - he's cheating on F. F. was NOT happy that M. stepped into her territory - so why would she think that P. would be happy?

I also supported F. when she wanted to go to detox and asked for my help. I hand delivered her to detox, again using MY sick time from my job to do it. She went for counseling, and seemed to be gaining ground, but then backslid into the drugs again.

She came to my house and stole pain pills from me. She had her car in my name so she could get cheaper car insurance, but couldn't be adult enough to take care of the bill. Getting a money order, slapping a stamp on an envelope and mailing it in time. I didn't even have a car at the time - she would never take me grocery shopping. But stopped at my house one time - with a friend waiting in her car  - dropped the money off and ran before I could say - 'hey wait a minute! how about taking me downtown so I could deposit this in my checking account?' Nope. I had to take TWO BUSES to get downtown the next day to do it.

BUT the minute I spoke up - the minute I put up boundaries and insisted she adhere to those boundaries - I became the bad guy.

I sent her a letter of intervention - to get her to see she needed to get off the drugs, to stop getting her heart broken by chasing after men that were off limits. But she got 'offended' - blew up - ran downtown and fell onto her 'crime victim status' and crocodile tears and charged me with harassment because I dared bring up in my letter her face getting slashed. 

Yeah, I was now the bad guy. AFTER I said FUCK IT.

She is out of my life now. She did try to worm her way back into my life by contacting me on instagram saying she misses me, life is short, and blah blah blah. 

I sent the fucking bitch packing. And I have no regrets.

I am creating my own fairytale - troublemakers are not invited, and will be escorted out.

 

I choose peace over drama. Since retiring, I am at peace. I don't have to put up with cow-workers. And when I retired, I took away Joan/Doris' favorite toy - calling my job to get me fired. She started doing that in 1995 and when I retired in 2015, that put an end to it.

The last time she did it was in 2012. And also in 2012, the exBFF who was pissed at me because I sent her a letter of intervention, decided to also call my job.

Idiots. They didn't take something in consideration. That I was an excellent employee. Their lies resulted in only one thing: they made themselves look like assholes to my employer.

Those 2 can rot as far as I'm concerned. I have peace and serenity in my life and I will not put up troublemakers. The only drama I engage in these days is the occasional banter on facebook.

Drama really is not worth the trouble. I indulged in the drama in the past. It's not worth it. It really all is nothing but bullshit.

I am creating my own fairytale. I am busy landscaping my property. I am planting flowers and lilac trees, yew bushes, a back hedge of rosebushes and ivy. I already have a Buddha statue, and fairy-garden village pieces. Just have to clear places for them.

If The Nameless One (my label for Joan/Doris) and the exBFF don't have peace and serenity - it's not my problem. They have consistently chosen chaos over serenity. That is their right. But they don't have any right to bring their chaos into my life.

Nobody does.

Some people's allotment of chances ran out. Life is too short to waste on abusive people.

 

Just saw this on facebook, and had to put it here.

I gave both Joan/Doris and the exBFF chance after chance after chance to treat me right.

When the exBFF contacted me on instagram in March 2022, wanting to be friends with me again, she said "Life is too short."

Yeah. she went there. Tried to guilt ME into taking her abusive self back. This after she went into my bathroom and stole pain pills, left abusive posts on facebook about me and my husband,  called my job with lies to get me fired, took me to court over a letter of intervention that I sent to wake her drugged ass up, acted like an insane person in court (screaming, swearing) AND threatened to 'beat my ass' as she was leaving the courtroom (after being told by the bailiffs to either shut up or leave).

But hey! I'M supposed to be the one who should be reminded that 'life is short'? OH, what a manipulative ploy - make ME feel guilty for not wanting her in my life. Make ME feel guilty because I should 'forgive and forget' what she did to me and take her back.

Fuck that and fuck her.

I have peace and serenity in my life - I don't want or need in my life grown ass adult women who love to stir up drama and get into arguments and fistfights. She's 64 years old, and is still acting like a 10 year old.